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If you were to take a step back, to take a deep breath, and to reflect on how the circumstances fell in place that led up to the break up you will have to admit that you saw it coming.
You may have resisted accepting it because of fear of being alone and having to start all over, but if the relationship had been characterized by constant arguments, demeaning language, and consistent lack of cooperation, then the absence of this type of stress should be well received.
It is indeed time to get on with living.
You may have resisted accepting it because of fear of being alone and having to start all over, but if the relationship had been characterized by constant arguments, demeaning language, and consistent lack of cooperation, then the absence of this type of stress should be well received.
It is indeed time to get on with living.
Here are 5 ways to do so:
1. Eliminate the other person entirely from your life.
Cut the ties completely. Make up your mind that you will not accept any phone calls or any other type of communication from this former relationship.
Get rid of anything the other person left behind -- pictures, clothing, and any other type of memorabilia. This is making sure that the breakup is complete.
Cut the ties completely. Make up your mind that you will not accept any phone calls or any other type of communication from this former relationship.
Get rid of anything the other person left behind -- pictures, clothing, and any other type of memorabilia. This is making sure that the breakup is complete.
2. Don't rush to replace this person with someone else.
Pause, take time to understand and appreciate yourself. Make sure that the next individual is someone you to can talk to and is compatible with your values, goals, and lifestyle.
Pause, take time to understand and appreciate yourself. Make sure that the next individual is someone you to can talk to and is compatible with your values, goals, and lifestyle.
3. Beyond intimate relationships, begin to choose your friends wisely.
Make sure you understand the difference between friends and acquaintances. A friend is someone with whom you can trust with your secrets; someone who is willing to help you in different ways; and, someone, who has your best interest at heart and vice versa.
In contrast, an acquaintance is someone with whom may occasionally have a pleasurable conversation and attend some events but don't offer you the same benefits that come from a friendship.
Make sure you understand the difference between friends and acquaintances. A friend is someone with whom you can trust with your secrets; someone who is willing to help you in different ways; and, someone, who has your best interest at heart and vice versa.
In contrast, an acquaintance is someone with whom may occasionally have a pleasurable conversation and attend some events but don't offer you the same benefits that come from a friendship.
4. Consider acquiring a new skill, taking up a hobby, and going to new and different types of events.
If you have been thinking about learning line dancing, then do so; if you have been thinking about learning to garden, then do so; and, if you have been thinking about going to a jazz, folk, or country music concert, then do so.
If you have been thinking about learning line dancing, then do so; if you have been thinking about learning to garden, then do so; and, if you have been thinking about going to a jazz, folk, or country music concert, then do so.
5. And, finally work on acquiring the attitude of self-reliance.
Begin enjoying your own company. Make yourself a more interesting person and you began to attract the type of person with whom you can have a satisfying relationship.
Begin enjoying your own company. Make yourself a more interesting person and you began to attract the type of person with whom you can have a satisfying relationship.
Most of all get on with living!
Are you ready to get on with living? Leave your comments below.
Are you ready to get on with living? Leave your comments below.
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