Single parenting
can be stressful and if you have several children it can often be extremely
stressful. However, when you focus on organizing your home, yourself, and your children, your stress can be significantly lessened.
Even though you have the total responsibility for meeting the needs of your children, your children can learn to respect that you need to have time for yourself and adjust themselves accordingly.
Also, as they grow older their distinct personalities will begin to emerge, one will be more independent than the other, and their unique talents and skills will also emerge. Then it’s up to you to recognize the differences in your children and build upon their strengths.
Meanwhile, here
are the 9 Single Parenting Tips for you to successfully live by:
1. Communicate Openly
Honestly and Often. Establish and maintain open communication and encourage clear and open expressions of thoughts and feelings. This develops trusting relationships with your children. Consistently praise their good and worthwhile efforts.
Honestly and Often. Establish and maintain open communication and encourage clear and open expressions of thoughts and feelings. This develops trusting relationships with your children. Consistently praise their good and worthwhile efforts.
2. Accept
Responsibility.
Try to accept the responsibilities and challenges of single parenting. Don't minimize or exaggerate problems but be solution-oriented without self-pity, hostility, or bitterness.
Try to accept the responsibilities and challenges of single parenting. Don't minimize or exaggerate problems but be solution-oriented without self-pity, hostility, or bitterness.
3. Organize Your Home.
Strive to be well organized and dependable and work hard to coordinate schedules. Put a chart on the refrigerator which breaks down household chores and make sure that the children have reminders of important tasks, events, and school happenings, Be prepared to make changes in order to cope with daily demands.
Strive to be well organized and dependable and work hard to coordinate schedules. Put a chart on the refrigerator which breaks down household chores and make sure that the children have reminders of important tasks, events, and school happenings, Be prepared to make changes in order to cope with daily demands.
4. Take Care of Yourself.
You can best take care of your children when you take care of yourself. If you are a new parent, have a friend or a relative come by regularly for the first few weeks. Or share babysitting. Take turns giving another single parent a break for a few hours, and then have the other parent return the favor at another time.
You can best take care of your children when you take care of yourself. If you are a new parent, have a friend or a relative come by regularly for the first few weeks. Or share babysitting. Take turns giving another single parent a break for a few hours, and then have the other parent return the favor at another time.
5.
Family Commitment.
Realize that you are not magically equipped with parental love or a “mothering instinct” which enables you to automatically care for your babies and children. It takes time, patience, experience, and effort to build a positive parent-child relationship and become an effective parent.
Realize that you are not magically equipped with parental love or a “mothering instinct” which enables you to automatically care for your babies and children. It takes time, patience, experience, and effort to build a positive parent-child relationship and become an effective parent.
6.
Recognize Family Traditions
Nothing makes a child feel safer than consistent customs and traditions -- from a child's bedtime to family times, birthdays, holidays, and special events. Strive to keep the traditions going even if things get difficult.
Nothing makes a child feel safer than consistent customs and traditions -- from a child's bedtime to family times, birthdays, holidays, and special events. Strive to keep the traditions going even if things get difficult.
7. Stay Positive. Attitude is a Choice
Strive to have a positive attitude toward parenting,children and life in general. Remember your children are always watching you and will draw strength from you.
Strive to have a positive attitude toward parenting,children and life in general. Remember your children are always watching you and will draw strength from you.
8. Manage
Stress.
Leave the room for a short time when you are losing control. You can deal more effectively with children and situations when you have time to collect your thoughts and calm down. Stress and strain are not productive to good parenting. Find a way to relieve pressure. Don’t take it out on your children.
Leave the room for a short time when you are losing control. You can deal more effectively with children and situations when you have time to collect your thoughts and calm down. Stress and strain are not productive to good parenting. Find a way to relieve pressure. Don’t take it out on your children.
9. Live One
Day at a Time.
Don’t dwell on the past. Live in the present. Identify and prioritize what you need to accomplish each day and do it. Simplifying your life will keep you calm and your children will emulate you and benefit from your example.
Don’t dwell on the past. Live in the present. Identify and prioritize what you need to accomplish each day and do it. Simplifying your life will keep you calm and your children will emulate you and benefit from your example.
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