3 No Nonsense Steps to Building Your Child’s Self-Esteem

Self-esteem evolves in kids primarily through the quality of our relationship with them. Because they can’t see themselves directly, children know themselves by reflection.

For the first several years of their lives, you are their major influence. Later on, teachers and friends come into the picture. 

But especially at the beginning you are it with a capital I.

1. Self-Esteem Can Form a Child’s Future

Self-esteem is the real magic wand that can form a child’s future. A child’s self-esteem affects every area of his existence, from the friends he chooses to how well he does academically in school, to what kind of job he chooses, to even a person he chooses to marry. No child has too much self-esteem.

If you take every possible opportunity to point out what your child does well -- praising it descriptively and expressing appreciation-- your child will become more cooperative, competent, and confident. A child who thinks he is good at something, even if he is not – – basketball, math, computer games – – is likely to be more resilient than a child who is never satisfied with his efforts.

2. Be Careful How You View Your Child

If we view our children as stupid, disobedient, disturbed, or guilty of their misdeeds, they would learn to view  themselves as foolish, deficient, or shameful examples of humanity. They will regard us as judges from whom they wish to hide.

They would interpret everything we say as further proof of their unworthiness. If we view them as innocent, or at least merely ignorant, they will gain understanding from their experiences, and continue to regard us as wise partners.

3. Don’t Plant the Seeds of Self Doubt in Your Child

Our children evaluate themselves based upon the opinions we have of them. When we use harsh words, biting comments, and a sarcastic tone of voice, we plant the seeds of self-doubt in their developing minds.

Children who receive a steady diet of these messages end up feeling powerless, inadequate, and unimportant. They start to believe that they are bad and can never do enough.  If you tell children they are bad, that’s what they believe they are – and that’s probably what they will become.

A child feeling good about himself is like a snowball rolling downhill. He will continuously be able to recognize and integrate new proof of his value as he grows and mature.

Keep in mind that your child benefits more from being valued than evaluated.


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3 Secrets to Becoming and Remaining Productive

There are three things that work against your productivity and personal development are procrastination, interruptions, and distractions. 

Here they are described and what you can do about them: 

1. Procrastinations

Procrastinations often arise because psychologically you don't want to do the task and consequently you keep putting it off and wreck your productivity. You either perceive the task as being too difficult, too aggravating, too provoking or all three and try to avoid doing it. 

However, avoidance is not the solution and the longer you put it off, the more anxious you will become. 

The solution is psychological in nature. 

You need to relax, visualize the most positive and constructive outcome you can, and then focus on the steps necessary to make the outcome a reality. Take the steps and then be pleasantly surprised at what happens.

2. Interruptions

Interruptions can be phone calls, someone wanting a face-to-face meeting with you, or any unanticipated event. Interruptions, however, can be prevented. If you're working at home consider structuring your day and vow to stick to your structure. 

Break your day down into time/task segments. For example, if according to your body clock, you are typically alert and do your best mentally challenging work early in the morning, schedule the first hour of the morning to do your research and writing if you work requires that. 

Then, schedule your organizing and filing at the end of the day. The hours in the late mornings and mid afternoons can be allocated for meetings, phone calls, appointments and lunch breaks.

3. Distractions

Distractions are the result of an undisciplined mind. Distractions principally happen as a matter of choice. 

You can choose to be distracted by playing useless computer games, dwelling on the argument you had with your friend or spouse, or engaging in some idle chatting instead of focusing on your tasks.

While procrastinations are also a matter of choice, distractions are even more so. 

Procrastinations might indeed be associated with having to deal with an unsavory experience such as revealing some bad news to someone, or just not doing something you just don't want to do but has to be done. 

Distractions on the other hand tend to result from an idle mind - a mind without a focus. Choosing to focus and act on constructive tasks with a strong desire to do so until you complete them eliminates distractions.

Your personal development as well as your productivity depends upon you clearly identifying these three culprits and taking the steps to eliminate them.

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10 Best Time Management Tips for the Busy Single Parent

When you manage something, you direct or control the use of it. Although you cannot direct time,has a significant effect on the success we experience in life.
you can certainly control your use of it. All of us have the same amount of time, but how we use it

Time management does not involve any secret principles. Rather it involves setting priorities, organizing your life according to those priorities, making a commitment to keeping them, and enjoying the journey along the way with less stress and more accomplishments.

Here are the 10 simple and easy time management strategies.


1. Do it immediately. If a task can be completed in less than a minute, do it on the spot. So instead of putting the glasses and dishes in the sink and walking away, Wash them right away. Get it over with.

2. Organize your documents. Learn how to organize your documents and photos on your home or work computer. Consider the many free photo organizing applications and the organizing features in your word processing applications and use one or more of them.

3. Purge your email of all unnecessary messages. Get serious about it.

4. Organize your bookmarks. Determine the categories that are important to you and set them up.

5. Count to ten when you feel snowed under by clutter and general disorder, Just putting things back in their rightful place including the trash can. And always have a bag ready for thrift store donations.

6. Organize and file your junk email. Establish at least two new email accounts. Use one for all the retail and internet, promotions you want to receive, and for your shopping. The other email account should be for your relatives, friends, and urgent emails. Visited these accounts twice a day and dispatch everything you don’t want to save into the recycle bin.

7. Cook more rice than you need for your today’s meal. Use leftovers for spanish rice, fried rice, red beans and rice, or other good rice recipes.

8. Organize your bookshelves. You may find a favorite book that you just totally forgot to read or that you can benefit from rereading. Others you may just decide to donate.

9. Recycle instantly. Keep waste baskets in strategic spots around your home, and deposit junk mail, and unwanted catalogs in them. Buy a shredder and remember to shred anything with sensitive information.

10. And, finally, start your day smart. Begin your day with a healthy and delicious breakfast. Consider oatmeal, fruit, and raisin toast, an omelet, grits, and wheat toast, a raisin toast sandwich of your choice of jam and cream cheese and a piece of fruit. Or if you prefer something even lighter, how about raisin toast, and cottage cheese with fruit. Reduce or eliminate the amount of meat you eat for breakfast. You’ll then be more alert and have more energy.


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