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| Equal Doses of Love and Discipline |
The importance of understanding and implementing these distinctions when it comes to raising your children is as important as knowing the difference between a thunderstorm with lightning and a gentle rain following a humid summer afternoon.
Punishment implies that you are imposing your will upon the
other person. This type of imposition can
range from harsh physical whippings to verbal put-downs and denigrations.
The result is that the child doesn't learn new behaviors, but how to do hide the unacceptable behaviors so as to avoid the reaction from the parent.
When my brother and I were kids we learned how behave in certain ways when we were in the presence of our grandmother who believed in physical punishment.
But when we were where she could not see us, we behaved as typically mischievous kids who wanted to do what we wanted to do.
The result is that the child doesn't learn new behaviors, but how to do hide the unacceptable behaviors so as to avoid the reaction from the parent.
When my brother and I were kids we learned how behave in certain ways when we were in the presence of our grandmother who believed in physical punishment.
But when we were where she could not see us, we behaved as typically mischievous kids who wanted to do what we wanted to do.
Discipline, on the other hand, implies that you are teaching
the child how to behave in a acceptable manner given whatever the situation
is.
It is teaching a child by example; by withholding privileges and explaining why and how to regain the privileges; and, by praising and encouraging the child's efforts.
It is teaching a child by example; by withholding privileges and explaining why and how to regain the privileges; and, by praising and encouraging the child's efforts.
When you punish your child you engender fear and resentment. And, when the child is old enough you will get resistance and rebellion, or even worse, a runaway.
What you are not likely to get is a child who has learned how to behave appropriately in social situations and able to make the right choices when the need is presented.
What you are not likely to get is a child who has learned how to behave appropriately in social situations and able to make the right choices when the need is presented.
A disciplined child is one who is likely to make the right choices when temptation occurs; one who has learned how to handle different situations without much uncertainty, and, one who can prioritize his actions.
Take time to discipline your child and stop using punishment. Punishing a child may make you feel powerful, but it is not beneficial to your child.
Discipline your child properly and you'll have a child that you'll be proud of and one who will grow up into a strong, self-reliant adult.
Discipline your child properly and you'll have a child that you'll be proud of and one who will grow up into a strong, self-reliant adult.
That's what you want isn't it?
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